Tips for building lifelong skills

No one likes dealing with conflict. But no matter how hard we try to avoid them, arguments, fights and disagreements are a fact of life - for adults and for kids. And not dealing with conflicts when they arise can negatively impact relationships and lead to further interpersonal challenges down the road.

Conflict may not be pleasant, but it doesn't have to feel catastrophic. Teaching kids practical skills to manage it in a healthy way will help them navigate everything from small squabbles ("She took my doll!") to big issues ("I don't know if I want to be your friend anymore") both now and as they grow up.

Tackle feelings first

Part of what makes conflicts difficult to navigate is the way they bring out big, intense emotions that children may not have the tools to process. Before they can address the problem that caused the conflict - whether it was a fight over a toy or betrayal by friend - kids need to be able to get to a place emotionally where they can think before they act (or lash out and make things worse).

Article by Juliann Garey
Published March 8, 2024
Published by Child Mind